Being the Sober Friend

Have you ever been casually enjoying your night out in town, standing in the queue for your favourite club with your friends when suddenly you’re “ready to swing”? I definitely have.


There’s nothing more annoying than being sober and your friend starts acting extremely drunk, even if they’ve had less to drink than you have. You watch as they cheer, the sound piercing your ears. Their arms fling all over the place, almost smacking some strangers square in the face. Then there’s the singing. Oh no, please not the singing..

You sigh and roll your eyes, and all they do in response is get louder and somehow, though seemingly impossible, get more irritating by the minute. Your arms are crossed and you glance at your other friend, giving them that “Seriously..” look, which they ever so gratefully return.

Finally you get into the club and you find that the friend in question can’t even order their own drink at the bar. Great. Oh and let’s not even talk about the taxi ride home.

Sound familiar?

If so, then here’s a few tips that should help when you’re in that situation.

  1. Breathe

Sounds simple right? Wrong. If you’re hot headed, one wrong word and the result could be chaotic. Even if you’re extremely annoyed, just breathe. Remember that it’s the alcohol and the atmosphere that’s influencing the behaviour of your friend (and yours too!)

2.   Leave the situation

Although I don’t promote being in town in the dark on your own, sometimes it’s better to get some fresh air if you can. If you feel annoyed or upset about a certain situation, leave it. Take five minutes to compose yourself, go outside and get some fresh air. Please be wary that personalities are heightened and all will be resolved in the morning after. (Side note: if you do leave a group of friends, make sure you let someone know.)

3.  Talk to someone

Expressing how you feel is always a good idea. Talk to a friend or someone you know you can rely on. They will listen to you. Or even talk to someone in the toilets; there’s been many times where girls have ranted to me about their friends or ex-boyfriends and I’ve been more than willing to hear them out. Letting off steam can not only make you feel better about the situation, but it’s also a lot healthier than bottling your true feelings up. Positivity is the best policy.

Whatever happens on your night out, remember that your friends have got your back no matter what. However if you do find yourself in a predicament, don’t be afraid to ask for help from the community volunteers that are around the town – that’s what they’re there for!

Thanks for reading this, guys! Wishing you all well.

This is me, signing off!